I’ve been here long enough to know confronting things head-on is not the done thing, but it’s already too late.
We need to talk about racism, Sweden.
Not just the big-picture, Jimmie-and-the-bootboys racism of the Sweden Democrats, or the lurch to the right of the not-so-Christian Democrats and the small-l liberals.
We need to talk about the everyday racism that means that we talk about “immigrant suburbs,” and not just suburbs.
We need to talk about the silent racism that leads to “schools with a high percentage of pupils from non-Swedish backgrounds,” and not just schools.
We need to talk, not of immigration, but of integration.
Because the first will happen anyway.
The second is up to us all.
On a day when Ahmed Hassan’s mother spoke of her love for her slain son, and Lavin Eskander’s friends spoke of his love for his job as an assistant at the school in Trollhättan where he was murdered, it’s about time we started talking about racism.
Anton Lundin Pettersson murdered both of them simply because they weren’t white.
It doesn’t get more racist than that.
But it doesn’t stop there.
How this crime is being reported to the world drips with racism – maybe not the aggressive kind that led Pettersson to kill, but racism all the same.
It is the kind of racism that sets the tone and the agenda, and that writes the first – and often the only – draft of history.
The kind of racism that calls him a “lone wolf”, when a brown person would have been called a “terrorist”.
The kind of racism that says he was dressed as Darth Vader, and not as a Nazi stormtrooper.
The kind of racism that fails to mention his military march around the school looking for victims.
It is the kind of racism that makes people in media and politics appeal for calm when they themselves, by their ethnicity, are safe in the knowledge that they are not, and never will be, the target of such attacks.
It is the kind of racism that sees no connection between the burning-down of planned refugee centres, the government’s change of heart in terms of granting temporary rather than permanent asylum, and the murder of schoolchildren.
It’s all connected.
In 2011, Jens Stoltenberg’s memorable answer to Breivik’s terror was “more openness, more democracy.”
But Norway’s answer was to vote him out of power and instead replace him with the “right-wing populist” – or, in simple terms, racists – of Fremskrittspartiet.
In Denmark and Finland, the race towards racism continued untrammelled by Breivik’s bad press. Even Denmark’s Social Democrats tried on the brown shirt, but to no avail, as they desperately tried to cling to power.
And in Sweden it happened too, as Jimmie and his party, born of the neo-Nazi movement, grew inexorably to the point where almost one in five could consider voting for his merry band of besuited fascist thugs.
We have to talk about racism. We have to talk about immigration. We have to talk about fear.
But to do so we have to stop talking about immigrants as threats and start seeing them as people.
We have to challenge the narratives created in the dark belly of the Internet, where hatred germinates out of lies and memes.
Because it is the dehumanising of individuals, the grouping-together so beloved of racists that leads young men to arm themselves with swords and kill based on skin colour.
I live in a multicultural area, but Pettersson would not have stabbed me or my children, simply because we are white.
But he would have stabbed some of my friends and some of my children’s friends, because they are not.
We bear no collective guilt for the actions of Pettersson, but we owe it to those who died to confront the elephant in the the room that is everyday racism – even if it is our own racism.
Because it is that – and not extremism – that makes Sweden one of the world’s most segregated places.